1. Their personality changes significantly whenever they use their substance of choice.

Does your normally nice partner turn into a monster whenever they use? This is a major red flag.

  1. They don’t remember what they did last night.

It’s not normal for a social drinker to black out. This indicates that something more is at play.

  1. There are always promises that they’ll change their behavior and stop using “tomorrow”.

Unless they admit they have a problem, nothing will get better.

  1. Actions that they’ve taken while under the influence have caused them to come in contact with law enforcement.

Have they been stopped for drunk driving? Gotten into a fistfight with a stranger? These are signs that a drinking problem has reared its ugly head.

  1. When they swear that they’ll stop using for a week or a month, they can’t seem to uphold the promise.

Although they most likely want to quit drinking or taking recreational drugs, they find that they’re unable to do so.

  1. Secrets are an issue.

When substance abuse is present, there are frequently secrets swirling around. Whether your partner is hiding bottles or concealing how much they’re using, you’ll find that nothing is as it seems.

  1. They cancel going to special events at the last minute.

drugsheartsWhenever you leave the house, you create an opportunity for them to use, so it makes sense that they’d rather stay home and use than attend a family picnic.

  1. Defensiveness arises whenever you try to broach the subject of their possible addiction.

This is a given; when confronted, people with substance abuse issues don’t want to admit their problems.

  1. They seem uninterested in hobbies or sports that they used to love.

When someone has a substance abuse problem, it takes precedence over everything else.

  1. Angry episodes seem to occur on a frequent basis.

The highs and lows of the substance can contribute to instability.

  1. You notice significant physical changes such as weight loss or weight gain.

If you’ve noticed that your partner’s weight has fluctuated a great deal, it’s time to dig deeper.

  1. You’ve found paraphernalia or bottles hidden around the house.

This shows that they’re aware what they’re doing is abnormal, and they want to conceal it from you.

  1. A joint bank account appears suspiciously low.

Alcohol and drugs can be a real drain on your pocketbook. A low bank account balance is a red flag.

  1. Sudden social changes occur, like inexplicably severing ties with old friends and bringing in new ones.

They may be spending more time with other users in order to make themselves feel better.

  1. You notice that they experience withdrawals and/or cravings.

Dependency leads to all kinds of adverse physical reactions.

  1. They can’t pay attention anymore.

Constant inability to pay attention is a surefire sign that they are struggling with a problem.

  1. Paranoia sets in.

Substances can affect mental health equilibrium, leading to paranoid episodes.

  1. Their sleeping habits change suddenly.

If your partner has been a deep sleeper and suddenly can’t get to sleep, they may be addicted to a substance.

  1. Work or school performance is altered.

People can only hide their substance abuse issues for so long; eventually, they will experience negative effects.

  1. Odd angry outbursts occur.

People with substance abuse issues often can’t control their behavior.

  1. They’ve stopped showering often or don’t care of themselves.

Neglecting personal hygiene is one of the first signs of trouble. The substance has taken over, and they’re unable to focus on anything else.

  1. Their skin color looks unusually pink or yellow.

Skin is our largest organ, and it will betray us if something has gone awry inside our bodies.

  1. You have noticed that they’re frequently itching.

This is a telltale sign of drug withdrawal.

  1. Sniffling and nosebleeds occur often.

Cocaine addicts often experience nasal issues. If you see that your partner is frequently sniffling or even has a bloody nose, this is a very telling sign that there may be a problem.

  1. When you look at their eyes, they seem different.

Whether they’re bloodshot or the pupil size looks strange, the eyes are truly the window to the soul. They will often reveal trouble right away.

  1. Exhaustion or hyperactivity is exhibited by your loved one.

If their behavior pattern deviates from the norm, it’s time to pay attention.

  1. They obsessively clean the house or shop online at all hours of the night.

Methamphetamine addicts are notorious for cleaning the house obsessively.

  1. After years of being healthy, your loved one experiences a seizure.

This sudden health emergency may be indicative of a substance abuse crisis.

  1. They shake when they haven’t had a drink yet.

Real alcoholics will experience withdrawal when they haven’t had their substance in awhile. This often manifests itself in shaking.

  1. Speech seems strange or perhaps even slurred.

All substances can affect speech patterns negatively.

  1. drugspartnerSuddenly, their coordination seems off.

If your normally coordinated partner is having trouble with normal tasks, there may be a problem.

  1. Injection marks are a very telling sign, but keep in mind that the arms are not the only place to look.

Addicts have even been known to inject their drugs between their toes and into the groin in order to avoid detection.

  1. They seem willing to invest all kinds of assets—both time and money—in order to get drunk or high.

Addiction can often take over someone’s entire life. Although they may want to save money when they’re sober, this goes out the window when they’re using or craving a substance.

  1. All of their social media photos have a drink in them.

This means that they’re drinking a lot on a normal basis—and glamorizing it.

  1. They sneak alcohol or drugs into inappropriate places like movie theaters and family parties.

Being unable to attend a social event without being drunk or high is a major red flag.

  1. You can smell substances on their breath all the time.
  2. Females’ menstrual cycles may be disrupted.

Drugs and alcohol can disrupt hormones in both sexes.

  1. Oral hygiene is lacking.
  2. Scarring can be seen on the body.
  3. They’re uncharacteristically confident.

One of the signs of cocaine use is overwhelming confidence.

  1. You’ve found burnt foil around the house.

This can indicate a heroin problem.

  1. They wear winter clothes during the summer.

They may be trying to hide track marks.

  1. Speech sounds fast and unhinged.

Speech patterns are often impacted by substance abuse.

  1. They experience panic attacks.

Substances can trigger mental episodes, leading to a dangerous cycle between mental illness and using drugs or alcohol.

  1. Moods change rapidly from high to low.

Rapid changes in emotional states are often a red flag.

  1. Their temperature is abnormally elevated.

A high temperature can be indicative of a substance abuse issue.

  1. Balance seems off.

Being drunk or high can disturb one’s physical equilibrium.

  1. They visit the doctor or ER constantly.

It’s possible that they are attempting to get painkillers.

  1. Constipation becomes an issue.

This is often a problem when people become addicted to pills.

  1. Family or friends notice missing pain medication.

If you’ve noticed that someone has been digging around in your medicine cabinets, it’s time to take a closer look.

  1. Blood pressure is abnormal.

This can be a sign of abuse for many kinds of substances.

  1. There’s a high pain threshold.

An unusually casual response to pain can indicate drug use.

  1. They use vodka often, which can be easily concealed in other beverages.
  2. Suddenly, they’re always late.

An abhorrence for punctuality seems to be a trait of substance abusers.

  1. They obsessively use mouthwash or chewing gum.

This indicates that they are attempting to hide the smell of the substance on their breath.

  1. Frequent bathroom visits become routine.

When someone needs to keep up their high, they will often retreat to the bathroom for a pick-me-up.

  1. They claim to have frequent, odd illnesses to disguise the addiction.

While it is often true that substances trigger frequent illnesses, they’re neglecting to add that the substance abuse is the root of the problem.

  1. They lie often.
  2. Suddenly, they blame you for everything.
  3. They neglect children and/or pets.
  4. Enlarged red blood cells turn up on their physical.
  5. Higher levels of liver enzymes may occur.

This is especially common in alcoholics.

  1. Depression and/or anxiety levels are amplified.
  2. They act reclusive.
  3. Excessive amounts of eyedrops have been purchased.
  4. Their face actually appears puffy.

Odd water retention is often a sign that the body has been exposed to an unnatural amount of substances.

  1. They’re not sympathetic to your problems.

Addicts are focused on one thing—their next fix. They can’t be bothered to deal with your problems, too.

  1. drugsyour-loveoneYou’ve had to cover for them with their boss.
  2. Showing affection seems difficult.
  3. Arguments abound.
  4. They say they’re leaving the house for five minutes, but actually leave for five hours.
  5. Financial problems suddenly become unbearable.

As usage increases, your finances will experience a death spiral.

  1. Their clothes smell strange.
  2. Productivity lowers.
  3. Eating habits suddenly become different.

Both drug and alcohol abuse can lead to odd eating patterns.

  1. They fight with strangers.
  2. Family and friends are concerned.

If someone else in the family has voiced concern, take heed.

  1. Their home or car is a mess.
  2. Missing household items become a regular occurrence.

Considered that they may have been sold so that your partner could buy more drugs.

  1. Legal problems arise.
  2. They drink five or more units of alcohol in one sitting.
  3. Their substance of choice is constantly present.
  4. They’ll bring their alcohol and/or drugs to school or their place of work.
  5. You can’t put your finger on it, but their behavior seems suspicious.
  6. It seems as if there is now an invisible wall between you.
  7. You have the strange sensation that you don’t know them anymore.
  8. You don’t understand their new priorities.
  9. The thought of leaving them can seem like a relief at times.

Living with an addict can be hellish. Don’t be surprised if you often experience intense emotions due to their problem.